The Book of the Prohibited actions

Riyad as-Salihin · Chapter 335

Prohibition of Refusal by a Woman when her Husband calls her to his Bed

باب تحريم امتناع المرأة من فراش زوجها إذا دعاها ولم يكن لها عذر شرعي

This chapter touches the intimate life of marriage and the duty spouses owe each other within it. Its single hadith is stern in tone, warning a wife against turning her husband away without cause and leaving him to pass the night resentful. The spiritual heart of it is that marriage carries mutual rights, and withholding them needlessly wounds the bond.

Read it in the broader spirit of the Prophet's teaching, where kindness, consideration and excused needs run both ways between husband and wife. The detailed conditions and exceptions are a matter for scholars; what the believer takes from it is the seriousness of guarding marital harmony and not letting a spouse sleep in anger.

Hadith 1749

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال‏:‏ قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏ ‏ "‏إذا دعا الرجل امرأته إلى فراشه فأبت، فبات غضبان عليها، لعنتها الملائكة حتى تصبح‏" ‏ ‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏ ‏ وفي رواية‏:‏ حتى‏:‏ ‏ ‏ترجع‏‏‏.‏

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and thus he spends the night angry with her, the angels continue cursing her till the morning." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

In plain words

This hadith warns a wife against turning her husband away from intimacy without reason and leaving him to spend the night upset. It points to the seriousness of guarding closeness and not letting a spouse sleep in resentment.

Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1749 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 239