باب تحريم الهجران بين المسلمين فوق ثلاثة أيام إلا لبدعة في المهجور أو تظاهر بفسق أو نحو ذلك
This chapter forbids al-hijran, the cutting off of a fellow Muslim by refusing to speak to him or acknowledge him out of resentment. Islam allows a brief cooling-off but draws a firm line at three days, because abandonment left to harden poisons the heart and tears at the single body the believers are meant to form. The aim is not merely to stop the silence but to heal the rancour underneath it.
Across these seven hadith the warning rises step by step. First comes the three-day limit and the praise of whoever greets first, then the reminder that on Mondays and Thursdays a heart nursing a grudge has its forgiveness withheld, then Satan's delight is shown to lie in sowing such division, and finally forsaking a brother is likened to shedding his blood and tied to a grim end. Notice the gentle exit offered throughout: a greeting, an offered salam, the first move toward reconciliation, which lifts the sin and earns the reward.
Hadith 1591
Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن أنس رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : "لا تقاطعوا ولا تدابروا، ولا تباغضوا، ولا تحاسدوا، وكونوا عباد الله إخوانًا، ولا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث" ((متفق عليه)).
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Do not desert (stop talking to) one another, do not nurse hatred towards one another, do not be jealous of one another, and become as fellow brothers and slaves of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim to stop talking to his brother (Muslim) for more than three days." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
In plain words
Do not cut one another off, harbour hatred, or feel jealousy; live as brothers. The hadith says it is not lawful to stop speaking to a fellow Muslim for more than three days.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1591 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 81
Hadith 1592
Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن أبي أيوب رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "لا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث ليال: يلتقيان، فيعرض هذا ويعرض هذا، وخيرهما الذي يبدأ بالسلام" ((متفق عليه)).
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to desert (stop talking to) his brother beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning to the other way when they meet, the better of the two is one who is the first to greet the other." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
In plain words
It is not allowed to shun a brother beyond three nights, each turning away when they meet. The better of the two is the one who greets the other first and breaks the silence.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1592 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 82
Hadith 1593
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : "تعرض الأعمال في كل اثنين وخميس، فيغفر الله لكل امرئ لا يشرك بالله شيئا، إلا امرءا كانت بينه وبين أخيه شحناء، فيقول: اتركوا هذين حتى يصطلحا" ((رواه مسلم)).
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "People's deeds are presented before Allah on Mondays and Thursdays, and then every slave (of Allah) is granted forgiveness (of minor sins) if he does not associate anything with Allah in worship. But the person in whose heart there is rancour against his brother, will not be pardoned. With regard to them, it is said twice: 'Hold these two until they are reconciled'." [Muslim].
In plain words
Deeds are presented to Allah on Mondays and Thursdays and forgiveness is granted, except to the one holding a grudge against his brother, who is held back until they reconcile. A grievance can keep mercy out of reach.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1593 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 83
Hadith 1594
Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن جابر رضي الله عنه قال: سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: "إن الشيطان قد يئس أن يعبده المصلون في جزيرة العرب، ولكن في والتحريش بينهم " ((رواه مسلم)). التحريش: الإفساد وتغيير قلوبهم وتقاطعهم.
I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying, "The Satan has despaired of being worshipped by those who engage in prayer in the Arabian Peninsula but (has not lost hope) in creating dissension among them." [Muslim].
In plain words
Satan has given up hope of being worshipped by those who pray, but still works to stir division among them. Discord between believers is one of his main aims.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1594 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 84
Hadith 1595
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : "لا يحل لمسلم أن يهجر أخاه فوق ثلاث، فمن هجر فوق ثلاث، فمات دخل النار" .((رواه أبو داود بإسناد على شرط البخاري)).
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to forsake his (Muslim) brother beyond three days; and whosoever does so for more than three days, and then dies, will certainly enter the Hell." [Abu Dawud].
In plain words
It is not lawful to shun a fellow Muslim beyond three days; doing so and then dying in that state is a grave danger. Letting a grudge harden carries a heavy warning.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1595 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 85
Hadith 1596
Abu Khirash Hadrad bin Abu Hadrad Al-Aslami (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن أبي خراش حدرد بن أبي حدرد الأسلمي، ويقال السلمي الصحابي رضي الله عنه أنه سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: "من هجر أخاه سنة فهو كسفك دمه" .((رواه أبو داود بإسناد صحيح)).
I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "Whosoever forsakes his brother for a year is like one who sheds his blood." [Abu Dawud].
In plain words
Whoever cuts off his brother for a whole year carries guilt as serious as shedding his blood. A long-held estrangement is treated as a grievous wrong.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1596 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 86
Hadith 1597
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:
وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "لا يحل لمؤمن أن يهجر مؤمنًا فوق ثلاث، فإن مرت به ثلاث، فليلقه، وليسلم عليه، فإن رد عليه السلام، فقد اشتركا في الأجر، وإن لم يرد عليه، فقد باء بالإثم، وخرج المسلم من الهجرة" . ((رواه أبو داود بإسناد حسن قال أبو داود: إذا كانت الهجرة لله تعالى، فليس من هذا في شيء)).
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "It is not permissible for a believer to forsake his (Muslim) brother for more than three days. If three days have passed, he should meet him and greet him; and if other responds to it they will both share the reward; but if he does not respond, he will bear his sin and the one who (has taken the initiative to) greet (the other) will be absolved of the sin of forsaking (one's brother in Faith)." [Abu Dawud].
In plain words
After three days, go to your brother and greet him; if he answers, you both gain reward, and if he refuses, the sin falls on him while you are freed of it. Taking the first step toward peace lifts the blame from you.
Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 1597 In-book reference : Book 17, Hadith 87