The 365 · Verses · Day 63 · Patience
Bear what they say. Then walk away with beauty. The Prophet ﷺ practiced this for thirteen years in Makkah.
Qur'an Q 73:10
وَٱصْبِرْ عَلَىٰ مَا يَقُولُونَ وَٱهْجُرْهُمْ هَجْرًا جَمِيلًا
“patiently endure what they say, ignore them politely, (Abdel Haleem)”
Svenska: och bär vad [illasinnade människor] säger med tålamod, men håll dig värdigt på avstånd från dem. (Knut Bernström)
The story
Surah al-Muzzammil was revealed early in the Makkan period, when the Prophet ﷺ was facing the bulk of Quraysh's verbal abuse. Allah commanded him to two paired disciplines: patience under what they say (sabr 'alā mā yaqūlūn), and beautiful avoidance (hajr jamīl). The pairing is precise. Sabr alone could mean staying engaged with the abusers; hajr alone could mean rude separation. The Quran prescribes both: bear what they say, and walk away from them in the most gracious way. The construction 'hajr jamīl' mirrors 'sabr jamīl' of the previous verses. Beautiful patience and beautiful distancing are paired tools.
In the language
هَجْرًا جَمِيلًا (hajran jamīlā) is 'beautiful avoidance' or 'beautiful distancing.' The classical commentators define it as separating from the harm without retaliation, without anger, without cutting in a way that escalates. The verse therefore teaches a graduated response: first bear, then beautifully distance. The order matters. You cannot beautifully distance if you have not first borne; the bearing is what makes the distancing beautiful instead of bitter.
Why this verse
The verse pairs two disciplines: sabr 'alā mā yaqūlūn (patience over what they say) and hajr jamīl (beautiful avoidance). The Prophet ﷺ practiced both for thirteen Makkan years. Together they form a complete response to verbal abuse.
Bring it into today
Audit one ongoing verbal-abuse situation in your life (a critical family member, a hostile online commenter, a difficult coworker). Apply the two-step. Bear what they say without retaliating. Then beautifully distance: reduce contact, mute the channel, change the seat. Both steps. Neither alone is the Sunnah.
A reflection to carry
The verse is one of the most useful for navigating modern hostility (online attacks, family conflicts, workplace tensions). Most people choose between two responses: stay and fight, or leave bitterly. The Quran prescribes a third path: bear without retaliating, then leave without bitterness. The combination is the Prophetic discipline. The Prophet ﷺ practiced it for thirteen years in Makkah, bearing every form of verbal abuse, then making the Hijrah to Madinah without rancor. The Sunnah is the worked example.
Read the longer reflection
There is a subtlety in the verse worth slowing down to see. sabr 'alā mā yaqūlūn (patience over what they say) is specifically about speech. Not over physical harm, not over economic loss, but specifically over the words they aim at you. Allah is naming verbal abuse as its own category of trial requiring its own discipline. The Prophet ﷺ in Makkah faced verbal abuse more than physical abuse for most of those thirteen years. The verse equipped him with the response. The same response equips us today: bear the words, then beautifully distance. Reply, if reply is needed, with the Prophetic minimum.
Sources: Ibn Kathir. The Qur'an and its translation are verified; the scholarship is retold faithfully in our own words and credited to its sources, never reproduced verbatim.
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